Why Women Do Not Need to Teach a Man

We have a long hair chihuahua named Raymond.  He should not weigh more than 9 pounds. About 18 months ago, Raymond started having difficulty breathing.  It started during the night and gradually it became constant.  He had trouble getting up and down steps.  He got to the point where he was having problems even walking,

I suspected what the problem was with the little dog. The dog was suffering from hip dysplasia and he was fat.  So, in all my wisdom, I told my husband what the dog's problem was.  He did think that Raymond weighed a little too much but he did not believe that I knew what I was talking about.  I have learned that pressing the issue is worthless.  All we end up doing when I chose that route is bickering.

I waited and sure enough, my husband got concerned about Raymond's health and took him to a new male veterinarian.  After charging a total of more than a week's pay, the veterinarian told my husband and I that Raymond was 50% heavier than he should be.  He had hip dysplasia which was being aggravated by the excess weight.  He weighed 14 pounds and should have weighed no more than 9 pounds.  The veterinarian prescribed a strict diet with NO treats and pain medication for a short time for the hip pain.

The dog now weighs 9 pounds.  He runs and plays like he did before the weight.  The only thing that I could not do is prescribe the correct dog food.  It took 3 months to get that weight down.


Then there is the garden.  I do natural organic style of gardening while my husband gets out the tractor, the tiller and any other machinery plus the 13-13-13 fertilizer.  I build up the soil with stuff like humus, sawdust and compost.  My garden has always been small and quite productive.  His is productive but takes a lot of effort.

One day a man stopped by and told my husband about organic gardening and he has been using more organic methods ever since.

There are many other examples but I really think these 2 are sufficient to make the point.  I have heard my husband talk to other men and say how intelligent I am so, why does he not follow my advice?

I think it is this way.  Ever since Eve gave Adam the fruit of the Tree of Knowledge of Good and Evil, men have been inclined to turn a deaf ear to what a woman says.  As women, there is nothing that we can do about it except have patience, keep our advice to ourselves (unless they ask for it) and pray for those men in our lives.

Ladies, it goes against everything that woman's liberation has told us and everything that worldly society says about a woman's place as well as defying all advertising, but we need to let men be men and encourage them, not nag them.  Men need to be the head of the house because that is their place in life.  Many men have abdicated that position because women are so Hell bent upon being the head of everything.  They just don't want to wage that battle.

I know how difficult it is to stand by and watch while my husband leads because until this marriage I was in charge and emasculated each ex.  I do know what to do wrong.  God showed me the right way to go and this marriage has lasted almost 20 years.  That is how to succeed.  Let God show the proper way to go.  Let Him lead so you both can follow a proper leader.  It is not the easiest way but it is the right way.  And God will give you the strength to remain silent when necessary.